Husband is pissed because I want him to watch our toddler more when she eats.

We have a two year old (just turned two in July). I have this recurring source of tension with my husband about her eating that’s been going on for a few months. In her highchair, she works her arms out of the shoulder straps and it’s just the leg straps holding her in. She’s gotten into the habit of standing up as much as she can and leaning over the side. Don’t worry, we (I) transitioned her out of the high chair today. We have also had a few scary choking episodes that always seem to occur when he’s feeding her. In one instance, she choked on a chip and couldn’t make any noise or get any sound out and ended up vomiting it up. We were close to calling 911 on that one (I was striking her back and it came up).So the issue is that I feel that my husband is inattentive when she’s eating. He reads books on his iPhone and gets SUPER immersed. Sometimes my oldest daughter and I talk to him when he’s reading and he doesn’t hear us. Many times, our toddler has to say things repeatedly to get his attention while he’s on the phone (like “more crackers.” The second thing he does is he uses the time she’s strapped in the chair to get things done. He frequently goes to the bathroom to go pee while she’s eating (I am in the living room and I can see her from where I am while this happens, but am not on duty). He’ll also load or unload the dishwasher with his back to her while she’s eating and/or let the dogs in or out, which takes a while because one of our dogs is very old.Tonight we moved her to a little chair and table and he sat on the barstool, further up and farther away from her than usual. He got on his phone to read. I said my nightly “Don’t forget to keep an eye on her while she’s eating, choking is silent” mantra, and then I watched him while she was eating to see how long it took for him to glance at her. I didn’t time it, but it was probably about three minutes, and she was eating silently for most of that. When he looked at her, I said “that’s the first time you’ve looked at her since I said to keep an eye on her,” and he got frustrated and kind of tossed his phone on the counter and is now sitting and pointedly staring at her.Am I the asshole here? Toddlers need to be supervised while eating, right? I guess he and I disagree on what “supervised” means. If a daycare teacher fed her that way and barely looked at her and zoned out on a book the whole time or got up and left the room, I’d be upset.Thoughts/suggestions? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2pelM66