Hi. Sorry for the long post. Just looking for some guidance.Over the last three months or so, my 4 year old (almost 5) daughter has seemed to have changed her opinion on me and I'm not sure what to do. She has gone from loving me, wanting to spend time with me to basically not wanting anything to do with meFor some background, her mother and I separated before she was born. I have been taking her a few nights a week since she was two months old. I had to move for a job a few years ago, so I live about 2 hours away from her now but I still have her every other week from Friday night - Tuesday. Sometimes more, all my vacation time and holidays are with her, sometimes instead of skipping weeks, I would have her 3 weeks in a row Friday - Tuesday. Obviously, it's not the ideal situation but we still spend alot of time together.Up until a few months ago, she loved being with me. I would even say she was more attached to me than her mother. She would always be incredibly excited for me to come and to spend time with me, she never wanted to leave my side and go back to her mothers, would always tell me she loved me, etc. Very attached to me. I'm not a perfect parent by any means, I do spoil her way too much and I'm definitely not strict enough with her.But since the beginning of the summer, it's completely changed.This is how she has seemed to change:-Every time I go to pick her up from her mothers, she won't acknowledge me, throws a tantrum and cries because she doesn't want to go. I have to pretty drive off with her screaming and crying. It takes me a while to calm her down. It's heart breaking.-When we play barbies or with her dolls, and something doesn't go right, like maybe she can't get clothes on her barbie, it's my fault. She will blame me. She's become more distant and harder to talk to.-It's also like she catches herself getting too close to me now, and will back off. Like, she will come sit on my lap instinctively like she's done a million times before and then when she realizes what she's doing after a few minutes, she'll get off of me.-Last weekend when she was with me, we visited my mother (her grand mother) and she didn't want to do any of the actives together exclusively me which we normally do like go swimming at the pool, go for walks, bake, etc. She only wanted to do these things if her grand mother came with us.-Yesterday, I tried to facetime her, which she use to love but she refused to even speak with me.It's very heart breaking, and hard for me to deal with emotionally. I've become incredibly sad and upset over it. There's nothing more in the world that I love then her and she doesn't want anything to do with me. Nothing has changed in my personal life either.Does anyone have any advice or gone through something similar? Is this just a phase? Am I over reacting and taking this too personally?Thank you via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2QDyqYS
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