I posted a question last week about my son who doesn't want to have his bar mitzvah celebration anymore. We talked about it and he kept insisting that it was because he isn't sure of his religion anymore. I explained that I understood that but this is also a cultural event and isn't just a religious celebration. My husband is from a Christian family and I told my son numerous times that I am okay with religious exploration but he has made a commitment and we have family coming from all over to see this special moment in his life.He's a tough nut to crack when you want him to open up about something. My older son is such a talkative kid and a complete open book so I'm not used to trying to dig out information. After a lot of talking he did eventually admit that part of the reason is that he's being teased. It's nothing severe but kids on his baseball team are making fun of him. My son is biracial and the kids have been calling him "Drake" (rapper who is biracial and Jewish) and have been sending him Drake songs via text and playing it in the dugout to tease him. He said it's stupid but the girl he has a crush on has gotten involved in the teasing so he doesn't want to have them all come to his bar mitzvah. He also doesn't want to make it a big deal by uninviting them. He told me he doesn't want me to get involved and can handle it himself. I'm frustrated that this is the reason but my son did say that he doesn't want these kids to stop him from going through with his celebration so he's okay with having them there and having the entire ceremony.Thanks to everyone who commented on the original.Original: https://ift.tt/2liMFE5 via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2JPnSGt
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