I have no idea what to do anymore. I'm literally at my wits end on this one.I have 4 children right now (about to have my 5th tomorrow, but that's unrelated) ages 13, 11, 9, and 2. My 2 year old is in her picky phase right now and generally only wants to eat 'easy' foods like crackers, carrot sticks, plain waffles, fruit, etc. Essentially, she only wants things she can pick up that don't feel sticky or slimy in any way.I ran into a problem about 2 months ago where the older kids would just swipe her food when I'm not looking, and tell me she wasn't eating it anyway so obviously it's okay. I explained to them why it's not okay, and the boys have stopped doing it because they realized that while it does take her a long time to get to it, she will eventually eat what I give her. My oldest, however, doesn't care and continues to take her food. Sometimes blatantly doing it in front of me.The older kids are in no way starving. They get 3 square meals a day, and 3 snacks. Everything is pre planned and portioned to make sure they're all getting enough to eat, and if they're ever feeling still hungry, I keep plenty of fruit on hand for 'extra' snacks that they don't need to ask for, they can just get into it whenever.My oldest though has started putting on a ton of weight out of nowhere. I discovered that not only had she been stealing money from me and buying extra food at school, but she has been taking food right out of the pantry as well, and straight up taking things from her toddler sister. I've had repeated talks with her about this, and nothing seems to be getting through to her at all. Her doctor says she's about 30 pounds overweight now. The boys are still well within a normal weight because they stick to the meal plans I make for them.It all came to a fight this morning, when I made the older kids blueberry waffles, and gave the youngest half a pop tart she had left from a few days ago. I left the room for a minute and came back to the youngest crying, because my oldest took her food again and ate it in front of her. When I asked her why the hell she did it AGAIN she glared at me and told me that I'm starving her to death and that I feed the baby more than her. I admit I got angry and told her that her weight says otherwise. She had already been grounded because I found out she was stealing money, but now I have to extend it because she's still stealing food. She just shrugged at me and told me she'll do what she wants, and I can't stop her.I have no idea what to do anymore. I've tried taking her computer, i took her phone, I took her art supplies, I cleared out her room at one point of everything except the bed and dresser, and she still doesn't care she's being punished for stealing. It'd be one thing if she asked me for extras, I'm not going to keep her from food ever. But she's blatantly taking money and taking food from her baby sister despite being punished for it. What do i Do?Tl;dr: oldest daughter is stealing money to buy extra food, and steals food from baby sister constantly. Grounding/taking away electronics and such is not working and I'm out of ideas. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2yuPXxg
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