My three year old is getting bullied at day care.

We moved to a new state in July and I toured every preschool/day care in our new small town. I finally settled on the only one that didn’t force the children to do worksheets. My son loved his new school at first and even said he wanted to go to sleep early so he could go to school and see his friends.After about a month we started to have trouble at drop off. He wouldn’t let me go and would cry when I left. Something he’s never done. He started talking about this kid Hudson being mean to him. Sometimes he’d tell me Hudson hit him but when I asked if Hudson went to break for it he’d say yes. So I figured the teachers had control of it.About a month ago my son told me he didn’t want to go to school anymore because he didn’t want to be hit anymore. We tried to get more information out of him but the only thing we could get was Eli hit him. Concerned, I emailed the director. He has 4-5 teachers in his class so I didn’t know which on of them to talk to so I figured I’d just reach out to her. She was super concerned and called me immediately. After talking a bit she said she’d talk to her staff and get more information. She called me back and said that apparently my son had been instigating wrestling matches with other boys. She also said Eli was a kid from a younger class and didn’t interact with my son. I was perplexed but theorized that maybe he still learning names and because he’s never attended day care with other boys he didn’t know how to socialize with them and started to wrestle but quickly got overwhelmed by it. She agreed that was likely it and said she had instructed her staff to put a stop to wrestling immediately.Well, on Friday my husband went to pick up our son and the teachers informed us that some boys had been pulling him around the playground. They put a stop to it immediately but wanted to tell us so we were aware of the incident in case our son talked about it. At home I asked my son what had happened and he told me Hudson and two other boys grabbed him by the arm and began dragging him and telling him they were going to put a diaper on him.I’m horrified. That is way more serious than “pulling him around the playground.” They ganged up on him, physically assaulted him and threatened him. I’m at a complete loss on how to handle this. I don’t even know where to begin. It’s incredibly clear now that Hudson is a bully. And the months of stories about “Hudson being mean” we’re actually cries for help. I just don’t know how I’m supposed to handle this at all. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2yFVzTu