If there are weird typos I'm sorry, I'm using the mobile app. This post is asking how i should handle the situation with the coparent, but I'll give a background on what happened because it seems necessary.Several weeks ago I saw coparent swinging our 4 year on his arm, relying on her to hold on with her hands as he lifted her and swung. I asked if he thought she could lose her grip while her did that, and he responded saying she had never lost grip before and that they did it all the time. I started to say that just because it had never happened doesn't mean it won't but he cut me off with "dude, come on." I'm a pushover so I left it at that.A little over a week ago he was swinging her on his arm again, and she lost her grip and hit her head very hard on cement floor with thin carpet (it was at a movie theater). I was present, I ran and picked her up and she was limp, she didn't lose consciousness but wasn't crying and was sweating and not responsive. I said we had to take her to the hospital and he initially refused and told me to call a nurseline first. He had driven but I refused to leave unless it was to go to the hospital, so he agreed. In the way there she was showing all of the signs of a concussion, and he said so because he works with paperwork regarding car accidents and is very familiar with concussions.When we got to the hospital he started complaining because his phone went dead, then started saying he wanted to go home before she got in a room, and in the room he complained the entire time, about his phone being dead, about how he had work in the morning, about how he wanted to catch a game, and kept pressuring me to leave and asking our daughter if she wanted to go home. He wouldn't let me turn the lights down (A nurse finally did), he didnt even want me to take her shoes off. He actually did try to check her out, but the nurses asked him to stay and said the doctor was making rounds and on the way (they were actually slammed with sick kids). He kept explaining away her symptoms, saying she was just tired and that's why she was falling asleep on the way to the er and she threw up the Tylenol right away that the nurse gave her because she had an empty stomach. When I finally said firmly that he needed to take this seriously and stop complaining he started cursing at me and telling me I needed to chill out and I was crazy. It wasn't until after her CAT scan that he finally stopped acting like this, it was because he had found a phone charging station while he was waiting for us.I didn't let her go to his house last weekend because she was still struggling and in pain when she didn't have medicine. He came over and visited her though. Then this week he started making plans for her for the weekend, despite her pediatrician telling us to limit her activities, both physical and mental for two weeks. He was mad but agreed, then when he took her Friday night he told me she was running up and down his stairs and being really active. He told me via text tonight they were playing wii sports and were playing the boxing game, which is really vigorous activity. I asked him if he could do a more relaxing activity and he responded with "it's not really boxing ffs." When I reminded him that it was what the doctor told us to do, because even though she's acting well she have symptoms return if she doesn't rest, he said, "I'm just not going to talk to you about what we do, if you're going to second-guess everything." It scares me that he is being this careless, and I feel completely helpless in the situation. I didnt respond, because I honestly have no idea how. I know reminding him how badly she was hurt won't do anything, throughout this he has only admitted guilt to get sympathy, or at least that's how it seemed. I don't want my daughter to suffer consequences because she's not being cared for properly. What should I do?I should also note that this isn't the first time he hurt her doing something dangerous, he also likes holding her up on his hand in the air, and expects her not to twist or move and gets mad at her if she does. When she was a baby he dropped her doing it, I wasn't around but claimed her broke her fall and seemed like he felt bad, but still does it today. She also went to the ER and has a scar on her head when he told her to run through a driveway with broken uneven cement, she fell into the exhaust pipe of a car parked there. Wasn't present for that either. The actual accidents I could forgive, I could chalk it up to stupidity as long as he learned from it, but it's the way he acts afterward.tl;dr Coparent doesn't seem to care about our child's well-being and will not listen to reason no matter how civil I am about it. What do I do? via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2hXcAPK
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