Now to begin let me just explain that I am well aware of my child's behavioral issues. She is stubborn, she doesn't like to listen, she lashes out sometimes, she makes her own rules. While I am not defending them I would like to explain that there are mentally challenged members of her father's family and even though they are grown they act more like ..well... like 5 yr olds with behavioral problems. At home she is reprimanded and corrected when she breaks the rules. This fixes the issue immediately. At least until next time. I have tried every type of discipline I can think of short of actual physical abuse and nothing seems to help long term. However on August 31st she started Kindergarten. I had hoped that this new environment where she sees how her peers act and follow the rules might actually help her but that didn't happen.I explained to her teacher at our first meeting that my daughter was going to be difficult and she may need to prepare herself. I was being serious, the teacher apparently didn't think so. On her first day at 11:30am I received a call from her teacher telling me that I needed to come get her. When I got there and asked what had happened I was told she broke some crayons and wouldn't remain in her classroom let alone the seat. So I took her home and explained that at school she would need to follow the directions of the teacher and how important it was to stay in her seat and listen so she could learn new things.The next day lo and behold another call. This time she wants us to come get her and I am annoyed. My husband has a job and uses our only vehicle. In order for anyone to get her, he has to take time from work. When we get there I ask to speak with the principal and together we explain to her that she has to follow all the rules. I explain that punishments at home will follow. The principal gives her advice on how to manage her angry feelings that make her want to throw crayons. I left her there that day. The next week was somewhat better in that we didn't receive any calls, but on a day that my daughter had an accident and we had to bring her a change of clothes the words "SHE PEED!! in bright red were written and her behavior reports have a lot of red. Again I reprimand her for each red block and try to discuss what she should be doing instead.This week however I received a note in her planner from her teacher requesting a meeting with us and the principal. In the note she asked if I would be willing to have my child evaluated by a doctor. I replied stating that I would be willing to have a conference and that I would determine the best day for it and let her know. The next day she called me and after speaking down to me repeatedly, strongly suggesting I use corporal punishment ( which would "end this trouble for good"), she told me "She just doesn't belong here. To which I replied that if that is the way she felt then what was the point of the conference, I would just unenroll her and bring her home. She then said that they really just needed to talk to us first. I told her I would be there Monday afternoon. When the planner came home that day it had some added excalmation points, some condescending remarks about how I needed to answer the phone (maybe I dreamed that phone call?) and a new note about coming in ASAP!! At this point I'm fairly angry and not just at my daughter but at the teacher too. Today a baggie with my daughters headphones in them along with a note that begins " She has showed her true colors today!! She broke her headphones by throwing them on the floor and she broke her crayons"Now again I have to say I am not defending her behavior however this is just unprofessional I think. She showed her true colors? Not she had unacceptable behavior, no, her true colors. Am I wrong here for thinking this teacher is just ridiculous? We are 3 weeks into a 5 year old's first year in a new environment with new rules and a level of socialization that she has never had before. 3 weeks in and she is telling me that my child just doesn't belong in Kindergarten. Any advice is welcome, even if it's to tell me I am wrong.TLDR: 5yr old is acting out in the first 3 weeks of school and her teacher is telling me in unprofessional ways to just hit her and that she doesn't belong in Kindergarten. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2xqQMoj
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