My aunt passed in July and I now have her 3 y/o son.

I'm 27, single and never ever wanted to have any kids I was perfectly content with being the older cousin/aunt to my many younger cousin's and nieces. This past July my aunt passed and left her 3 year old behind. I stepped in to take him in part time with his father to keep him with his family and out of foster care. I feel his father is making the situation worse because he spends the entire time with his son playing video games and watching super violent movies/TV shows that are way inappropriate for a 3 year old. So I have no idea what I'm doing now that I'm basically a pseudo-mom. I don't know how to deal with the tantrums, the nightmares, the hitting, the violent out bursts, the misbehaving, and the fighting over everything. And idk if it's him acting out from his mom passing, his father ignoring him for his games, the constant back and forth between my place and his father's, or just normal toddler behaviour. And honestly I don't know what I'm doing, I'm just making it up as I go and just reacting to what he's doing so I'm really hoping I'm not deeply fucking this kid up. Any advice or tips would be great.I tried signing up for mommy blogs but they were all about having natural preservatives and no GMOs and no sugars and all that bullshit. And honestly if the kid pees in the potty without using a whole roll of toilet paper or getting pee all over the floor then yeah I'm gonna give him a god damn Oreo. Sugars be damned. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2gvoxLD