Making kids wait at school?

When I was a child, parents would not have made two trips to a school to drop each child off at their time. But that is what I have been doing. Older child (16 yr old) is very involved in school. He has extra curriculars 2-3 times a week. 13 yr old is kinda grumpy. He has no extracurriculars. In fact, with my older children, if a child needed to be there 30 minutes to an hour earlier or later, the other one just dealt with being there an extra 30 minutes to an hour.Here was my morning. 6:48am, left to take 16 yr old. Dropped him off at 6:59am, got home by 7:10am. At 7:30am, pulled out to take older child. Got close enough to the school to drop him off at about 7:45am. Got out of the parking lot/drop off line at 8am, and got home at 8:10am. Used gas to drive each way. 13 yr old was just sitting at home doing school work before school, something he could have done at school while he waited in the morning.This afternoon, they get out at 3:30pm. Older child has a short meeting after school and needs to be picked up at 4pm. I usually leave the house for the school about 3:05p-3:10p. I sit in front of the school by 3:20pm. I do not get out of the parking lot until usually around 3:55pm. Today, I told younger child that I would pick both him and his brother up at 4pm. There is no point to me coming at 3:30pm just for him to sit in the car with the car running, using gas, in a car line trying to get out of the parking lot. But he is not happy with me and really wants me to just come at 3:30pm and take him home and then return for his brother. I explained to him that I would be just pulling out of the parking lot when his older brother gets out. I spend so long sitting in the car line, it is a waste for me to come that early.I am thinking of just telling younger son that when older son has an activity, he needs to just stay. Literally, I am dropping older child off right at 7am and the younger one at 7:40-7:45am and making two trips over that. And it is not uncommon for me to pick up younger child at 3:30pm and not get out of the parking lot until almost 4pm, only to return and pick up older child at 4:30pm.I am starting to feel like I have catered too much to my children and my children just need to suck it up. I do not think having to sit at the school and just study or whatever will kill them.Is there any reason to not just tell them 13 yr old he has to come and go when his brother does? Additionally, I cracked my tailbone a while ago and it is in a lot of pain when I had to sit too long. I am in a lot of pain right now from spending over an hour this morning already driving them to and from school and sitting in the slow car line. I now have to go take medication for the pain, something I do not have to do when they do not have school. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2xz70MQ