Before I had my now 6 month old baby, for better or worse my method of handling disagreements was usually a passive rolling over and "fine, do it your way, but then I get to say I told you so." My husband is usually pretty stubborn when he's convinced he's right, and it had worked for us for the most part - with me sometimes seeing that his way worked fine, and sometimes him getting the annoying "I told you so."I'm finding that doesn't work so well when a third party's well-being is on the line. For example, last night he wanted to take our 6 month old to a baseball game. I was meeting him at the ballpark since i worked near it, and he was bringing the baby. I asked him to please bring warm clothing as it was a bit chilly. He responded "But we need to show off her new (team) onesie." I said, "Okay, but please bring warm things in case. Her hat is in the drawer." He brings the hat and a couple of blankets (medium weight and light weight), and shows up with the baby in a short sleeve onesie (with him wearing a down jacket). It's 58 degrees outside. After a while I feel her hands and they're like ice, and her arms and legs are pretty cool too so I tell him she's really cold. We argue for 30 minutes, with him insisting she's not cold. Finally he agrees to let me put my down jacket on her, though he's rolling his eyes and insisting she's still not cold. I tried bringing up google results on how to tell if a baby is cold. I quoted the "one layer more than you" advice. He just refused to listen, saying that the pediatrician said baby's hands are supposed to be cool. I finally lost patience and called him a neglectful parent. (not cool I know). But I don't really know how to compromise with this! I don't want to take my usual approach, which I guess in this case would be just letting her suffer and then saying "I told you so" when it became obvious. Was I overreacting in this instance?How does one handle disagreements as coparents like this? via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2hiPVRh
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