At a loss on how to communicate with 4 year old daughter

My 4 year old daughter is going through a phase where she's very hard to communicate with. A few examples:She will whine and sound very upset, and maybe kick the furniture to further demonstrate how upset she is, but refuse to tell me what's bothering her. If I ask, she whines harder or maybe starts crying, or will do 2 or 3 below.Sometimes when she's upset, she tells me angrily to stop talking.Sometimes when she's upset, she tells me I'm bad or that I'm not her mommy anymore.Sometimes she will insist on things that are very irrational. For instance, she complained about being cold and I suggested she put on a sweater. She got angry and said a sweater would make her colder. Sometimes I try to "play along" with the irrational thing she makes up, and she gets me at me for agreeing with her irrational thing (for instance, "Yeah, that's the cold sweater! BRRRR!" "NO IT'S NOT MOMMY. I DON'T LIKE WHAT YOU'RE SAYING.")I read a book called "How to Talk So Kids Will Listen" and the suggestions have not helped me address these problems. Does anyone have any advice?I feel completely at a loss and have no idea how to respond in these situations. :( via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2x4Vh81