Backstory - my stepdaughter was partially raised by her grandmother, who is a poisonous, judgmental person who clicks her tongue at anything that is out of place. She's kind of adopted that judgmental tone to her interactions with others, but she sometimes points it towards herself as well. It also doesn't help that she's surrounded by classmates who tend to use "You're fat" as their go-to when bullying.She hit puberty at the beginning of 7th grade, and her body changed significantly, but by no means is she fat, obese or even overweight by medical standards. She's not too active, though she bikes to school every day and participates well in P.E. (which she hates). For a time I was taking her to the gym with me when I could and she'd use the treadmills, but due to work commitments, I'm unable to do that now.She really doesn't have that high of a caloric intake at all - I really think this is her body reacting to puberty, storing fat for a growth spurt or something - but lately she decides to skip meals, which I believe is unhealthy. She should at least get a few nutrients in her body a few times a day.I want to be able to give her some encouraging words about her own perception of her body, as she's in that time where every emotion is so intense and pronounced, and viewing oneself objectively is near-impossible because of the ridiculous sea of noise that eats away at your confidence while in middle school.How should I approach this? Consider that she already doesn't listen to me when I tell her to clean her room, so why would she listen to me when I tell her the truth that she's not fat? via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2jHmDME
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