I have a 4 year old. Only child. He is a really great kid. So this has thrown us for quite a loop. It all started back in September when a 6 year old cousin asked him to "show her his private parts". I caught them and it wasn't that big of a deal... kids will be kids. I really didn't want to shame any of them and took the opportunity to talk to my son about keeping himself safe by keeping private parts private. Quite some time went by and nothing happened. Then it all started again with this cousin. That time her mom (my husband's sister) was watching them and found them. She freaked out. She was yelling at them and very upset. We had another little talk about it with son, mostly to undo the damage she had done. Another couple of months went by and this time my son asked a cousin on my side of the family to show private parts. The cousin he asked was 6 and a boy. Sounds like they pulled down their pants and that was about it. Talked to my sister who wasn't worried about it. We just agreed that we need to watch the kids better and i stepped up the talks with my son about needing to keep these things private. We bought some great books, had some awesome discussions. That was in January. Jump to now, it keeps happening. Mostly just wants to show them them his penis. We are still reading the books, answering any questions as he has them. I called his pediatrician and he suggested some positive reinforcement tips. The problem is, I don't dare let him be around any other kids to try those out. It has only happened while he is being watched by his grandmas and my sister. They watch him closely, but he finds any time they are distracted. I am at a total loss! I don't know what I could be doing differently. If I am around and watching, it doesn't happen. Just wondering if anybody has any suggestions for me.TLDR: my 4 year old had an older cousin ask him to show private parts. It has started a cycle of him showing other kids his penis. Need help! via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2q42kc1
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