Reality Check: Am I turning into That Parent?

My 7 year old is finishing up 1st grade at a private school. He went to K there and had a great experience but then we got new administration and a new 1st grade teacher. We've been significantly less than thrilled with the teacher and admin and are moving into a good public school district this summer, for a wide variety of reasons that are too numerous to list here.The teacher assigns mandatory homework 5 nights a week. It started out as just a couple worksheets per night and has now escalated to at least two worksheets, a writing assignment, and a reading assignment per night, plus weekly memorization, spelling, and reading tests.My son is very bright (gets all As) but also very sensitive. If we miss homework one night for whatever reason, he states that the teacher "yells" at him. We brought this up gently with the teacher at PT conferences and she said that she doesn't yell, but admits that she gets loud when she's frustrated "but it's just because I love the kids so much".My son has gotten increasingly more stressed during the school year. We've helped him work on coping strategies, making sure yes getting enough sleep, etc., and doing our best to stay on top of homework.Last night I was tucking him in bed when he burst into tears and started sobbing about an assignment he'd forgotten to do. I usually check his folder after he finishes homework but I'd been cooking dinner at the time and I'd forgotten. I tried to get him calmed down but he was incredibly anxious and kept saying he didn't want to get yelled at, the whole class was going to think he was stupid, and so on.For Christ's sake, there's no reason for a 7 year old to be stressed out like this! So I wrote the teacher a note simply saying that he is too stressed, we will get done what homework we can but request that she excuse him from any that doesn't get done and discuss with us directly if there are any issues. We are also looking into play-based therapy to help him improve his coping skills and reduce stress.But, I also feel like That Parent, saying my special little snowflake shouldn't have to do shit, you know? So any advice or opinions are greatly welcomed. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2q3EUDw