Hey All. I have two daughters 4 and 1. The 4 yr old is exhibiting some interesting behavior that I kind of chalk up to "the princess trap".The behavior - lack of confidence, "boys are better", "only boys play soccer", and doesn't "try" much less "try hard" at new activities. Much of this is conveyed with a very mean/snooty reply/attitude.This isn't the end of the world but it's not what my wife and I want for our daughters vs. them being confidence and empowered women. I am worried that longer term is will hurt our ability to connect with her.Some of the contributing factors - I feel like everyone outside my wife and I shove princess culture at her by the truck load. Movies, dress up dresses, jewelry, etc. A lot of these movies entail a woman that has to be helped by a man. We try to counter balance with movies like "Brave" and having family days in the outdoors. Also, her only cousin that lives near by is kind of a snarky little dude and definitely feeds the "you can't do this because you're a girl" perception. Last, I'm sure there is something my wife and I are contributing here. She's our oldest, we're very attentive parents, she gets a TON of attention from us. We do our best to build "please and thankyous" into her and a mantra of be nice to all you meet but I'm sure we're messing up in other areas.We're researching pretty hard for some course correction advice right now. Some tactics that can help to get to the root of her insecurities and then help build her back up to grit her teeth and try/have confidence in herself. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2c807cz
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