My husband said being a stay at home mom isn't a job

I'm 24, my husband is 35. We have 3 children. The oldest is 3 the younger twins are 4 months old.He doesn't help me. He said because he works he doesn't have to. I asked him to change a diaper tonight and he straight up said no because he did me a favor by washing the babies bottles. He only washed them because he wanted to have sex. That's literally what he told me. I asked him to change it because one of the twins pooped and our 3 year old was in full on melt down mode because she didn't want to go to bed. So I put her down to change the diaper. You know what she does? Pulls down her pants and poops on the floor. Oh, husband just sits and watches. Doesn't clean her or her mess up and doesn't say a word.I didn't want more kids after the first girl. I saw how my husband was with her and knew if we had more my life would be 10 times harder. I got pregnant on depo and condoms. How the fuck is that possible??? I love my girls and would die for them but it's so hard doing it alone.I do all the nights, bath time, bed time, feeding, cooking, diapers, doctor appointments . cleaning. I'm broken. I'm still in pain from my c section 4 months ago. I just cry and cry. I also have nerve damage in my hand and wrist from a blood draw gone wrong went I was pregnant. My wrist aches so much. I'm not supposed to use it so much but I have no choice.I don't have family. I haven't talked to my parents since I was 18. They abused me as a child and I just can't have them in my life. I don't have friends. I'm so shy and we just moved to a new state.I don't have savings anymore. My husband lost his job and I was 4 months pregnant and put on bed rest. My 15,000 is gone.I'm so fucked. My 3 year old is driving me batshit. My twins had colic and screamed all day for 3 months. I'm typing this as I hold one of my infants so she will sleep. I barely leave the House because it's hard with 2 babies and a toddler who wants to run everywhere.Please help me. I don't know what to do. No money, no friends no family and 3 daughters under 3 years old :'( via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2aOI5Ly