Need help with two year-old's "listening" issues

Hey everyone, I'm trying to find the right balance on a very minor issue with my two year-old daughter.Daughter is great 95% of the time, quite the far cry from the "terrible twos" horror stories I've heard a lot. She is amazing at school and in public. However, at home, there is a lot of recent unwillingness to listen and follow instructions. Simple things like sitting where she needs to sit for putting shoes on, or standing on the step-stool for washing hands and brushing teeth, or not hitting a toy on the wall, that kind of thing. Often, it will take minutes of cajoling to get her to do something very simple, which can be frustrating when we are on a schedule. She absolutely understands the instructions -- she is very verbal and knows a ton of words.I am having a hard time figuring out how long to give her to comply before there is any kind of consequence (e.g. time out or loss of privilege like iPad time) or some kind of physical redirection (i.e. picking her up and placing her where she needs to be). I am also trying to avoid being too stern/serious/loud, because I want to save that kind of stuff for dangerous situations like when she's about to walk into traffic or something. Moreover, I want to be careful about coaxing via rewards for obvious reasons. Not sure all that's possible at once, but those are my concerns, basically.Anyone find a good balance here, and mind sharing? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/32OJYPx