My skin is dark and my partner was white and my daughter came out really Caucasian looking. She is just barely even noticeably more tan than her super pale mother. I even had a paternity test done after enough people expressed doubt and advised me to. People typically don't assume she is my daughter out in public.Anyways. I have never talked about color or ethnicity or race ever but my 5 year old daughter for like 2 years has said prejudiced things that I am finally worried enough about enough to seek help.Examples include:- Scratching her skin all over to leave white marks so she can be whiter- Sneaking into the bathroom to leave traces of white soap over her skin hoping it'll make her whiter- Talking about how when she grows up she is going to laser off little skin marks off because brown is not beautiful- Crying and saying she wishes her skin tone was that of a ghost and that she could be as white as her mom- Often talking about how beautiful blonde hair and blue eyes are, TANGLED SPOILERS: For example, crying when Rapunzel's hair turns brown.I got fed up with this and avoiding making a big deal of it which is what some people have advised and showed her a movie about segregation yesterday and she said that she wished the black kids could just be white so there wouldn't be a problem.She says brown is not good so I asked her if I was not good and she said that I am white and that to her at least I was white. I found this disturbing. I am very obviously not white and I have been confused for like every ethnic group except white in my life.Is this common or normal and a result of just living in an inherently prejudiced world? Biological? Idk. What are your thoughts and what do I do? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2UnYDyK
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