My wife and I recently had our second kid. My wife didn't want our two year old to sleep in her own bed. She has slept in our bed everyday since she was born. The two year old continues to cry and whine and keep us up all night because my wife can't give her the attention she is used to. I have tried to have our two year old to sleep in her own bed but my wife didn't want to.As soon as the two year old starts crying that is when my wife feels obligated to soothe our kid. My wife feels like she has to do something immediately to try to soothe. I believe the complete opposite. I know teaching your kids to sleep in their own bed is rough at first. They will cry but they learn to self soothe. I'm not saying that I will leave our daughter and let her cry the entire night. But I don't give in so easily like my wife. It's starting to take it's toll on us because my wife is getting barely getting sleeping feeding the kid every two hours. Our daughter doesn't turn to me to get attention at night no I feel frustrated and helpless. When my wife can't give our daughter the attention she is used to she will wail and cry for hours. Keeping us up and our newborn up.I know all of this could have been avoided if we had our daughter sleep in her own bed, but my wife is convinced that teaching our daughter to self soothe at night by crying herself to sleep is a form of child abuse and being neglectful. Again I believe the opposite and I will repeat myself just so we are clear. I won't stick her in her room and close the door and let her figure it out. I would check in if she continues to cry but I would let her cry for the most part because she isn't used to this.Now my questions are how do I convince my wife to start putting our two year to sleep in her own bed? What can I say to point out that self soothing isn't child abuse or being neglectful? What can I say to my wife to that letting her cry for a bit is ok and that we don't need to intervene?If I'm being inconsiderate because I'm stressed or beyond exhausted let me know lol via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/32SXbWc
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