Recently my „uncle“, whom I will call James died aged 86 of cancer. Now we have found his last will. In it he revealed some secrets. He wrote that his brother Timothy was gay. For my entire life I considered Timothy as my father. According to James will, my mom was fully aware of Timothys homosexuality by the time they got married. However she was keen to marry him as she wanted a more free life than most women of her generation had. This is consistent with my memory of her personality. By the time when they got married homosexuality was illegal and socially unacceptable in my country. Also Timothy would have lost his job. They both wanted children. But according to James my mom felt uncomfortable with making Timothy sleep with her, even for conceiving children. So they agreed with James that he should be my brothers and my biological father. James wife agreed to it, as she felt bad for being unable to have children herself.They did everything possible to keep this secret during their lifetimes, however they agreed that the one of them who would live the longest should confess it in his will. James Wife died in 1994, Timothy died in 2007, and my mom passed away in 2014.James also wrote that my mom and Timothy genuinely loved my brother and me. He added that my mom and Timothy in their way loved each other too. They genuinely held each other in high regard.Growing up I always felt that their marriage was warmer and more loving than all of my friends parents marriage. They never fought and genuinely relished each others company. By the time I got married I myself hoped that my marriage would be as happy as theirs. So I am sure they were all happy about this.Should I keep their secret?But I have a 14 yrs old son. What should I tell him about it?Is there anything else I should do?TL;DR: My uncle is my biological father. He had an agreement with my parents, my dad was gay. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2HStKfb
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