My 17 y/o has totally overbooked herself with activities in an effort to make the most of her senior year. While we’re so happy she wants to be involved and gain experience, it’s gotten to be too much. As it stands right now, she has major scheduling conflicts between cheer and work, mostly because she is not responsible with letting her boss know her cheer schedule ahead of time and instead waits until he has already made the schedule. We have had to cancel therapy appointments, and do not have the ability to get her a tutor like she had asked for because there’s no time. We are way behind on teaching her to drive because there’s no time to take her out for practice. Since she can’t drive, her being over scheduled affects our entire family, not just her.The hard part is, she refuses to listen to suggestions and work with us to come up with solutions. Every time we broach the topic, she gets upset with us for being “too negative”. She insists that she can work with her boss and her cheer coach to find a compromise, even though her coach made it crystal clear at the beginning of the season that work was not an acceptable excuse to miss for cheer. She is also dragging her feet with figuring everything out, which causes major stress on everyone trying to figure things out at the last minute.The way I see it, since she refuses to listen or accept our help figuring out how to make things work, we have two options to move forward...and both suck. One would be to put our foot down and insist she drop one or the other, which will cause a major fight. The other is to take a step back and let her either figure out how to make it work or get fired/dropped from the team. This is what we’re leaning towards, but it is hard for this momma to willingly let her crash and burn to learn a lesson. This also obviously would suck - no mom wants to see their kid crash and burn, but this may just be one of those things that she needs to experience in order to learn.Any advice or suggestions would be appreciated. We’re at the end of our rope, so I’m hoping some fresh perspective might help.Edit: added a few words via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2Loxib2
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