Tired of being the parent with all the mental load

Currently in bed having spent the night vomiting (thanks stomach bug!). I asked my SO to get up with our 18 mth old to get him breakfast. He NEVER does this voluntarily and makes it feel like he's doing me a huge favour - 18 months and I do all the night wakes and mornings.He just came in and said "Baby shat through the bed" - like he does a few mornings, but apparently it's my job to clean it up. Every. Fucking. Time.He told me when we were having this kid that he would help with it - that should have been the big red flag - it's his kid, he shouldn't "help", he should just parent.I feel like I've ended up with Mr 1950's. What the hell happened to my life? Have you guys ever been in this situation where mom has all the mental load of caring for a kid and successfully got your SO to change his habits? I'm so tired of everything feeling like he's doing me this big favour when he does anything with our child. We both work full time, but I do all the cooking, laundry cleaning. Far out, I feel like such a fool. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2xAyZL9