Part 3: https://ift.tt/2D1BXxk 2: https://ift.tt/2wM21Gw 1: https://ift.tt/2D2xnip, a few things have happened. This has sort of devolved into moves and counter-moves that may be more suited for /r/relationshipadvice... but we'll see.Mom's first move, as I mentioned, was to drag me to court. Thankfully, I scored a resounding win there. The judge told her she was being completely unreasonable and stopped her from withholding our son. It was clear she wanted to fight this particular battle in court, but the judge didn't allow her to bring it up because it was my motion and it wasn't on this issue.I also interviewed with a police detective on the issue this week, who basically took the same position as the social worker - that is, that this is all family law drama and there's no evidence to support any of this. Again, he was very professional, but he made no bones about the fact that he didn't think this would go anywhere since our son refuses to repeat what he said.I figured that this would probably be the end for now, and it would be all watchful waiting and being extremely cautious and hoping for the best. Unfortunately... no. This week, I was served with papers notifying me that my ex is seeking an increase in child support. What convenient timing when the order has been the same for more than 4 years! It seems her intent is to wage all-out war on me for having the audacity to give voice to the things our son said. There are no child support arrears between us or anything like that. It's all done through the county child support agency, so I'm not even sure if I get to have my day in court over this. I may just lose thousands of dollars more a year without any more notice. I'm not remotely wealthy, so that's a very scary prospect. I wish I had a lawyer, but in calling around every office I spoke to requires an up-front retainer in the thousands of dollars, which I just don't have.For his part, our son seems happy enough. I imagine, whatever the truth of the matter, that Mommy and Bobby are on their very best behavior at home, what with cops and social workers sniffing around. He hasn't mentioned the choking again and I haven't wanted to push him or lead him in any way.In my head, I keep coming back to something that my sister once said to me: that shit like this is why parents end up becoming deadbeats. When all you do is try to look out for your child and get along, the system allows for you to get completely punched in the face for having the audacity to care. It makes me incredibly sad, both for myself and for our son, who is just an innocent bystander here.I don't know where we go from here. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2xgwLAx
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