Need advice - I want to be a stay at home dad

Hi all,I'm from a city in upstate new york and have started a job a few hours away in a major city because I couldn't find specifically what I was looking for at home. The plan has always been for the rest of the family to come in a few months when my wife finds a job, but also give me a chance to evaluate things.I just started and it doesn't feel right. The company seems great, the job seems great based on what I was looking to do, but I just feel off. Moving my family here would be a more stressful way of life due to traffic and cost of living, and more pressure to keep pulling 2 incomes. The company itself is also full of career driven people who seem focused on moving up the ladder. The company also has a heavy support system for moving up, which is great if you want that.I've never been a career driven person. I do have a good degree and it's not that I'm lazy, I just don't care about the concept of a career and dont mind taking short term jobs as the need arises. I have a programming background.In my most honest moments of reflection, I feel like I'll look back on these years and regret going after this. It's going to require longer hours than I had back home, especially as I move up. My kids are my world and I want to spend as much time with them as I can. I would prefer to stay home with my kids and work on some personal projects to establish passive income, work on being frugal, and making healthy meals for my family. There were days back home where we felt pressed for time on weeknights so I can only imagine what that might be like in this new city with longer hours and commutes.I want to tell my company thank you but I dont think this is for me, and head back home and be a SAHD. My wife might freak out at the thought of having just one income though. I don't know how to pitch this to her.For those who have done this, moms and dads, are you happy with your decision? When your kids reached school age and needed less intense one on one time, did you start to regret leaving your jobs? I feel like I would cherish that time. Did you feel that having only one income made it not worth the struggle? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2pmq0J7