Son got in trouble for something big at school; worried husband would be acting differently if situations were different (TMI)

I'm going to just come out and say it. My 16 year old son was suspended from school for having sex with another male student on school grounds.It's bad. It's inappropriate, yes.I'm just worried that my husband would've reacted differently if he had been with a girl.My husband and son have always had a "bro" like relationship, and we had no signs that our son was gay. He is very masculine, into sports, the whole stereotypical bro scenario.Since the incident on Wednesday, my husband has been very rough and curt with my son. I understand that this behavior was extremely inappropriate, but, while he hasn't said or implied anything, I get the feeling that had my son been "nailing a chick," it would've been all high fives and video games. How can I bring this conversation up with my husband without being accusatory? via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2x7pbGZ