Wednesday, 13 September 2017

I can't bond with my screaming, colicky baby.


Our daughter cries all day. She's 5.5 weeks old. This didn't start until about 3.5 weeks. We went to the pediatrician and we were told "It's colic. It's a medical mystery. There's nothing we can do. Sorry."She cries for 8+ hours a day. If she's awake and doesn't have a nipple in her mouth, she's crying. Loud, heart-wrenching, torturous crying.The 5s's don't work. Gripe water doesn't work. Gas drops doesn't work. Reflux medicine doesn't work. Bouncing, swinging, baby wearing-- nothing works.I can't like her. I can't bond with her. She cries in my face all day. She cries in her Dad's face when he comes home from work. We can't do tummy time or talk to her or play on the baby gym because she's always screaming. I dread waking up at night when I hear her cry. And I especially dread the morning wake up because all of this is worse during the day, and I'm alone. I have to put her in her crib in her nursery because the hours of crying makes my teeth clench until my jaw is sore, makes me shake, and I cry too. I hear her cry in her crib and I feel SO MUCH guilt. Like I'm an awful, horrible excuse for a mother letting my month old daughter "cry it out" until she's so exhausted she finally falls asleep.The pediatrician said she will cry regardless of if we hold her or leave her alone. She said studies have been done showing no difference in development or attachment for colic babies who were constantly soothed through their episodes or left alone. She said to let her cry. But none of this feels right. My daughter is miserable and I feel broken and useless. I'm scared to death my Husband and I will never bond with her and she'll grow up to be detached and feel unloved because we let her cry so much.The pediatrician said it will ease off by 6 months. But that feels like years from now, like an impossible and unobtainable timeframe away. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2y8hKQe

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