My son is almost four and very much at the 'why' stage. He askes us questions all day long and wants to understand everything. But the one thing I am struggling with how to approach is his questions about his other grandparents.For background: both sets of grandparents (my parents and my in-laws) live in the same area. We have lived at least 5000 miles away from there for my son's whole life. My parents have been out to visit multiple times, send cards, FaceTime weekly, etc. My in-laws have never once visited us in the 11 years we have been married. When we visit the area we're from, we're expected to see them. Because of that they have only ever spent a total of maybe 12 hours around our son. My MIL claimed she forgot his name recently. They are very involved with the other grandchildren that live nearby. I guess that is their reasoning? Convenience, I don't know.Anyway, my son has been questioning a lot about my in-laws and why they don't want to talk to him or visit him. Now I personally have no relationship with my in-laws for many reasons, but I didn't want to influence his possible relationship with them. I don't want to crush him by saying something like they just don't care, but what do I say instead?Looking for advice or insight especially if you've dealt with the unequal attention from grandparents. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2wxSt2Z
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