Of course, I want to give my daughter the best in life, but I have always felt slighted compared to her dad (shared custody). He lives in a rough neighborhood. I'm talking hookers walking past, shootings and stabbings at least once a month within a 1-mile radius, and I had to get out.He stayed and bought the house he was renting. It's a beautiful house, but the area is awful. It was auctioned off in a sheriffs sale and was about 40k. I know for a fact at one point there were bullet holes in it.I moved to a small (small) apartment with our child. She was only 3, so she didn't care. The area is like this:My Chances of Becoming a Victim of a Violent Crime 1 in 1,105Crime Rate (per 1,000 residents) 0.90I carefully considered this before moving because I wanted her to go to a good school. I was granted primary custody.He still lives in his area 10 years later. He still has that nice, huge house and new cars. However, our child doesn't seem to notice this area and picks at me for having an apartment (now a shared house). At about age 7, she asked why she can't have a house like at dads.I moved into this shared house which is now costing me almost 1k a month. Also, we have neighbors and she can't scream, yell, and act insane like at dad's. She just recently commented on how small her room is over here compared to over there.She isn't allowed to play outside over there, but he hides his reasons for why. I see news articles about shootings and stabbings all the time and don't say anything.When can I come clean about this? She also asks if we are poor and has started to make comments like "Maybe you should get a boyfriend so we aren't so poor". She thinks someone should be paying for a house for us.The house I am sitting in and renting is literally 250k. She has her own room, a huge attic, a yard, and so on. I wish she could just appreciate what she has. How can I do this without bashing her father and explain I can't afford a house in this area? Thank you! via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2xfXJJ6
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