A while back, we pulled our daughter from daycare because, as a preemie, she had been getting relatively severely sick with each illness she easily caught at daycare (hospitalizations for RSV and Pneumonia). She also has feeding/weight issues and is on a couple medications to help with that until her heart condition is repaired.We found this nanny on a local Facebook group and interviewed her. She'd said all the right things, I called her references--in hindsight, I think they were just babysitting references. Despite my wife designing and laying out activities, despite our many requests to walk to the library for some kid socialization, despite our and our OT's guidance related to feeding, our nanny has not done these things. She took it upon herself to decide her own feeding strategy, once told my visiting aunt she just didn't know how to get to the library--despite being a smartphone aficionado and figuring out how to get to our house from the train...yes, we found out she doesn't have her own transportation after the fact...we somehow forgot to ask in the interview--she hasn't consistently been giving our daughter her medicine (I've weighed before/after care), and she's blatantly lied about working on the OTs feeding recommendations. Whenever I'd text her with questions or to give her info, she'd only ever give one word replies.I'm pissed and feel hurtful that she would treat our daughter this way. She's been through a lot in her first year and while she's a lot of work and takes a lot of patience, we were up front about it.I'm picking my wife up and we're coming home early from work today to have the talk. I'm going to occupy our daughter while my wife has the talk. We're planning on paying her for the rest of the week, however upset we are.Now we have to go through this whole process again, using family to help in the meantime, until some of our daughter's hurdles are overcome that stand in the way of being able to return to daycare (and we're considering waiting until after RSV season).This is mostly a rant, looking for words of encouragement and advice. Thanks for reading. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2hf8END
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