First time posting here... Looking for a little advice on how to resolve this.Our son is 4, and will be 5 at the end of January. He is a "spirited" child, artistic, and sometimes absolutely exhausting. He doesn't always listen or follow rules the best, but all-in-all, he is a sensitive little boy with a big heart and a bigger personality.He and his little brother started daycare at a private parochial school back in June. Aside from half a year of half day head start, this has been our oldest child's first experience with daycare in an actual daycare building. My husband was a SAHD for several years.Things seemed to be going wonderfully until this week. Last week, school went back into session, so our oldest son moved up a room into 4 yr preschool.The last two days, yesterday and today, we've gotten bad reports about his behavior. This is a first, other than accidentally hitting another child a couple months ago. Apparently, he's been disruptive during circle time, and nap time, and when asked to stop, he has made faces at his teachers and continued his bad behavior. Today, he told one teacher that his parents gave him permission to misbehave.I assured his teacher that we had not. Both his father and I talked to him last night, read him the note his teacher sent home, and he was excluded from receiving a special treat that his younger brother was allowed to have.I talked to my son on the drive home this evening to find out why he would misbehave and lie to his teachers. According to him, it is because his friends won't play with him. In his words, "they were playing chase, and I like that game, and they don't want me to play with them."My heart broke.I did explain to our son that he can't misbehave because other kids aren't playing with him. He still has to follow rules, and as a result, he spent an hour in his room when we got home today. I explained that he needs to communicate with us and his teachers if he is upset.Things make a little more sense now. During the first week, I was informed that two boys had hit my son in the face during an argument over a playhouse on the playground. I signed the paperwork which briefly explained the incident, and wrote it off. They're kids, the teachers handled it.When my hubs got home and talked to our son, he got a little more info than I did. There are a few boys who are excluding our son from play, and I'm assuming the same boys are the ones who struck our son in the earlier incident.Our 4 year old is being bullied.I plan to speak to his teachers, and I would like to email them but don't have the lead teacher's email address.Advice on how to proceed? What should I say? Why in the world would four year olds be bullies? Our son does have long hair, but other than that he is a normal little boy with nothing outstanding that I would see that could cause other children to exclude/bully him. I know kids can be cruel and all, but this concerns me that this is starting so young and the teachers seem to be oblivious to it... and pinning it all on our son for reacting to the other kids' behavior toward him. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2jxvjW2
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