Okay so this is a weird one, hopefully someone can give some words of wisdom on how to deal with this.A bit of background, Ill try to keep it short: My ex/kiddos bio dad is not involved with kiddo at all, when he went crazy on drugs a couple years ago we ceased contact with him, and I basically told him to leave us alone if he was smart. I think he took the message to heart and we havent heard from him since.From what I can tell by checking his facebook, he has gotten clean since then and has a fiance. Good for him. However, they both made their pages private so I cant snoop anymore, thus I have no idea what hes up to lately.His mother, who Ill call K, is brain-damaged from a car accident decades ago. I point out that she has a brain injury because sometimes shes not all there and doesnt understand things going on around her. We dont have much contact with her, as she is hard to communicate with, cancels meet-ups with kiddo, and over all she doesnt seem that interested in him. So we gave up keeping in contact.Last night, my mom got a call from K. She didnt say who she was at first, she just asked if kiddo was home and safe. As I was upstairs with kiddo myself, my mom was confused and said 'Yes hes safe...Is this K?'K says that her son/my ex was back living with her again, and she knew that there was an Amber Alert with a description of my son, and claims that she heard a childs voice coming from the room my ex is supposedly staying.For one thing, I honestly doubt he would ever go live with her again, as she is one of the main reasons he turned to drugs. If he is still sober, he would not go back there even out of desperation. If he was back on drugs, he would still find somewhere else to go. And obviously, no one has kidnapped my son. I think K is suffering delusions. My mom understands this, but she said she had nightmares last night that my ex tried to take kiddo. And now she has valid fears that he will try to exercise his rights to at least get partial custody, especially if he is sober now.How can I ease her fears? Im very aware that this could happen someday, but I know that I cant fear or worry about it. He had no involvment in kiddos upbringing, doesnt pay child support, doesnt even check in to see how hes doing. Hes a stranger for all intents and purposes, and possibly doesnt even have interest in being involved.Personally I am open to the possibilty of him becoming involved again, however little the capacity, only if he is long-term sober. I dont think he would ever do something as stupid as abducting kiddo, but my mom is still on edge.Edit: I guess I should point out the significance of my ex living with his mom again; it would mean he is living a LOT closer to us than before, so it has my mom spooked. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2uoi22j
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