Hello,My ex-wife got pregnant with one of her affair partners, and had a boy. I didn't find out until he was 5, and I love him just like my other kids (two daughters ages 8 and 10). His Mom and I are divorced now, and we share custody of our children 50/50.NOTE: This is *NOT** a post to ask if I should or should not tell him. I've already thought about this a lot, and I have decided that I am going to tell him. The question I am trying to answer now is HOW to tell him.*My son is turning 7 in June, and I'm thinking this is a good opportunity to give him a "birth story book" that has the truth in it. The idea is that this would be a "natural" gift for his birthday, and the story in the book would include something about how his Mom and her friend made him, but I am the dad who raises him.That's the part I need help with. I have no idea what to say. This kind of stuff isn't my skill. I don't want the focus of the book to be about his biological origin.. I want that part to just be a small blurb on one of the pages. Because right now, it isn't going to mean too much to him, and he might not even question that part.The idea is that.. i want him to understand the truth about his birth origin before he's old enough for that information to affect his emotional health, etc. I want to try and make it so he knows he has a different bio-dad, and it's just "normal" for him to know. Then as he gets older, he will eventually realize more what that means, and we can deal with that information when he's ready... instead of all at once when he's 15 or something and he "finds out" that his mom and I lied to him (kept the truth hidden) for so many years, etc..So I'm not sure what to write in the story or how to do it.Do you think a birth book should be more pictures? Or more about the story? For example.. I could put one picture for each page, and then write a sentence or two for that picture. Or should I write more? (Hi Mom doesn't know for sure who is the father, so unfortunately it's not possible to put a picture of his bio-dad.)Where can I make this kind of book? I'm sure there are online services where I can upload a picture and text for each page and it will put it together for me and I receive a printed copy? Does anyone know of such a service?Any ideas or suggestions would be great! If anyone knows of an example for this kind of story book... that would be very very helpful!Thanks! via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2qtKz8E
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