Just need to vent

So I just need to vent mostly. I have not been on good terms with my parents since my son was born 20 months ago. It started out as them getting mad because I asked if they could wait a day or two to come see the baby at home because I just needed to have a minute. We were in the hospital for 3 days with non stop visitors and I was trying to breastfeed which was hard for me to do with people always around. They were with me for 3 days and I just wanted to take a day to get a handle on it at home before I had people around again. So they got mad and would text me in the middle of the night to tell me how selfish I was being and how they can't believe I was keeping their grandson away from them. Then it got even worse when I said my son couldn't stay the night with them because my dad had done stuff like masturbate in front of me as a kid, wanted me to run around the house naked when I was in elementary school, etc. my mom told me that I needed to get over it because that was a long time ago and that my dad would have never touched me and he would never hurt my son. Then months later after several messages about how my mom really wants to be a part of our lives and to give them another chance, I let my mom see my son, but only at my house or with me there. I went to a family get together and she made a bottle for him (I had stopped breastfeeding at that point). I noticed she mixed the bottle wrong so I showed her how it's measured, no big deal. Then another day I went to her church and she took him to the nursery for me. When I picked him up, I noticed he was about to get an 8 oz bottle that was filled to the brim of water (which is actually like 10'oz when it's full). I asked my mom where to dump out the extra water so I could mix the formula in there. She said "oh I didn't dump it last time, I just poured the extra water in another bottle put 3 scoops of formula in there and then added the rest of the water" I was pissed! I told her before how to mix it and she did it completely wrong again and was off by several ounces of water. She told me it didn't matter because it was only a few ounces and he is 9 months so he will be fine. She got mad at me for being so picky and started yelling at me later for being "a pain in her butt" There have been several other times where if I say I'm doing something for my son, they say it doesn't matter and get angry at me when I speak up about it. I went to have lunch with my dad one time and when I left, he strapped my son in to the car seat as I was loading the car back up. The strap was off his shoulder and loose so I fixed it before I left. My dad looked annoyed that I fixed it. My mom would text me several times and ask to take my son or let him spend the night and I said no. So she constantly replies back how hurt she is and to not even tell her when I go into labor again. She bad mouths me to other family members because she doesn't like my parenting choices (choices of basic safety and nutrition) So after frustration of trying to at least let them see my son supervised, I stopped trying to have any kind of relationship with them at all because I'm so sick of their drama. Now the problem I'm having now is that my grandmother is very sick in the ICU and my parents have been the ones giving me updates when I can't talk to or see my grandmother directly. They have been acting so nice and civil towards me that it makes me sad. It makes me sad that I can't have a normal relationship with them. It makes me sad that they can't act like this all the time and that there has to be a constant back and forth of emotions.Maybe I'm just hormonal because of being pregnant again and knowing this next baby won't have any kind of relationship with them at all. Sometimes I have to remind myself that I'm doing the right thing for my kids and that is why I have to keep my parents at a distance... which is why I'm writing all this out.TL/DR: making the decision to distance my parents should be an easy one, but it still hurts me to do it. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2pSQz9P