Our youngest goes to an awesome all day preschool and has been there since August. We have not had any problems and love her teachers and administrators. Yesterday when my husband went to pick up our daughter, one of her teachers pulled him aside and said she had to tell him about an incident that occurred in case our daughter mentions it later.Apparently when another mom came to pick up her kid, our daughter went to that mom and said the kid had pushed her earlier on the playground. Annoying tattletaling, I get it. Several of the kids have said the same thing to me...some habitually and I always ask the teacher about it. Sometimes they are telling the truth and sometimes they aren't, but I always say, "Oh, we don't want to hurt or friends!" Or something like that until I talk to the teacher and find out if it's something I need to address. This is just to say, the kids says these kinds of things to a lot of the parents all the time - they are 3 & 4 year olds! Annoying, but to be expected. They have a color system based on behavior and our daughter had had her weeks of being challenging as all preschoolers do...but for the past several months she has not had a "bad" color so I don't believe she is being a bully or having behavior issues. The teachers are great about monitoring these things, in my experience. So, that gives you a "current state of affairs" baseline for what follows.According to the teacher, when my daughter tattled to the other kid's mom, the mom got down in her face yelling and jabbing her finger at my daughter. She said she didn't want to hear it and that she hears bad things about her all the time and she was OVER her (my daughter). The teacher said my daughter froze and just kind of flinched with every finger jab, but was fine afterward. She said it was really overboard and that she didn't know what to do so she was telling us about it. [I do have concerns about her lack of action and plan to ask her to please step in if she witnesses something like that with ANY kid in the future.] My husband asked which mom it was and the teacher hesitated while my husband explained he would like to talk with them to resolve things. She said she wasn't allowed to say and he said that's fine, I'll talk to [daughter]. When he seemed like he was done discussing it, teacher jumped back in and said, "Well it was just so shocking and I wanted you to know...more hesitation...because the mom actually works here."Cue the record skip...okay, no. Someone who is employed here who is an authority figure my child sees daily will not speak to or treat her that way. That's completely unacceptable. Teachers often cover breaks or sick days for one another and I would not want someone who was that aggressive with my child being in charge of them all day. Is that an overreaction on my part? The amount of emphasis the teacher put on this and how concerned she was about it suggests to me this was not just a stressed out lapse in judgement.We talked to the assistant director this morning who was going to talk to our daughter's teacher and the director and then call us later. We love the school and want to preserve relationships and do not want to be seen as creating drama, but I have to ensure that my child is well cared for and I have real concerns about this person's ability to do so, with my child or anyone else's for that matter. Am I being too overprotective? Should I sheath the mama bear claws? via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2qz2mZ9
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