How often do you do things apart from your family? / Disagreement on time apart from baby

I'm wondering how often other parents do things on their own away from their partner and kids, on an evening, weekend, whatever. Also, how often do you have a date night without the kid(s)? I'm wondering because my wife (28 F) and I (28 M) seem to have different outlooks on this when it comes to our son (9mo M).Sometimes, I want to do some sort of extracurricular activity after work. Others (like recently), I wanted to go to a football game (to which she was also invited) on the day after my son's birthday. In both cases, my wife gets upset that I'd like to go and do something else - and tells me that she'll need to stay home to watch our son. When I suggest that we could get a babysitter and go together (both sets of grandparents are available), she tells me no because she 'has to work during the week and enjoys spending as much time as possible with our son on the weekends.On one hand, I feel like I'm being made to feel bad for burdening her with the sole responsibility for child care on these occasions. On the other, she tells me she wants to spend as much time with him as possible. She also told me that it was wrong of me to want to go to the game the day after my son's birthday (because it is his 'birthday weekend'). Even though I disagreed, I did end up agreeing to go to a different game because she felt strongly.We are new parents and so I know that we both have different ways of adapting to our current situation. But sometimes I feel like I'm trapped and my wife expects me (and us) to never be apart from our son - we've gone out without him a total of 2 times in 9 months. I have not done anything / gone out by myself since before he was born. I love him very much but I feel like I am losing parts of myself (friends, hobbies, etc). I'm not sure what's normal and what's not, so I'm hoping others can share some info on their lives so I can figure out how to best communicate my needs with my wife without being selfish.Anyway - how was your first year as a parent in this department? How often did you have a date with your partner? What do you think is healthy/not?Thanks! via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2bnbRUz