Stay At Home Mom Shame

I'm sure this isn't the first time this has been discussed on this subreddit but I can't find any discussion about it right now so here I go...I am sick of it. Just plain sick of it. I am 24 with a 2 year old (will be 3 in 2 months). I am young. I don't have a college education. No. This is it. This is all I do. Raising a child is a JOB. I am sick and tired of people asking me when I am going to "go back to school" like I am 16. It's just me and my husband. My mom works, my MIL is not a safe caregiver and daycare is through the roof in my city. And News Flash: I like staying home. I love my daughter and want to spend every second with her that I can before she grows up and has her own life. Who would fault a person for wanting that and achieving it?What am I going to do with myself when my daughter starts school? Maybe get a degree online. But definitely not now. I don't care if your sister stayed home with 3 kids and still got a college degree. People talk about that like it's easy. It is not easy. I am already pulling my hair out on a daily basis, struggling to care for my daughter, get enough sleep and drink my coffee while it's hot. Why would I do something that I know is terrible for the scraps of sanity that I manage to maintain? Yes, working moms have it harder, they do everything I do and go to work. But guess what? All parenting is hard. Its all one big bag of FU all the time. For every. Single. Parent. On the planet. Stay at home moms don't have it easier because they get to do their jobs in pajamas. If that's the case then we need to stop paying these nannies and babysitters, because it's not a job.I hate the stupid look people give me. That stare down their nose and the disappointed "oh". Like I just told them I'm unemployed living in my mothers basement. My husband makes plenty of money. We own a home and 2 cars (both of which are paid off). I am an adult. I didn't NOPE out of it by having a baby. That's not how this works. I pay bills and babysit someone else's kid 2 times a week. I schedule doctor appointments and buy the food and budget the money. Not to mention do all the cleaning. We have a dog that I am 100% responsible for. Guys I am busy all the time every day. Sometimes I think about getting a job so my husband can do half of this. And I don't get a single penny for it.Why do people look down on me like this? Why is the word Just always put in front of Stay At Home Mom? "Just a stay at home mom" is the worst phrase I can think of to call me. I am not "just" anything. I work hard and no one outside my immediate family understands that at all.Ugh. Rant over. Thanks for reading. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/32FfIq9