Sunday, 22 September 2019

Did I say the wrong thing?


So I'll try to keep it pretty summarized. I was at an event with my (25F) husband (29m) and I met a bunch of people and their kids. We played games, shuffle board and the like, and the kids were running around on a sugar high acting like typical kids. There were three kids; one was 3 years old, one looked to be about 9 or 10, and the other was 12 or so. The 9 year old (girl) took a liking to me and kept coming to chat with me and play games with me. By the end of the night she ended up telling me that she had kissed a boy in her class. I didn't really know how to respond, not having any kids of my own (although I'm expecting in November). I asked her if her parents knew and she said no. I asked her if that was something she wanted or if the boy did it and she said she was very happy about it and that she wanted it. She also said she thinks the boy wants to be her boyfriend. I had absolutely no idea what to say or how to handle it, being that she told me her parents did not know. I didn't want to say the wrong thing so I kind of changed the subject and told her I won't tell her parents if she doesn't want but she should probably tell her mom at least.I told my husband about it on the drive home and he kind of scolded me for saying too much. He said that is a delicate situation and I need to be careful what I say to a child that I barely know, which is true. I didn't think I said anything specifically wrong, but now I'm starting to second guess myself. I have never dealt with a child of that age before and I don't want to overstep my boundaries as a stranger to this child who obviously looks up to me enough to tell me something like that.Did I say the wrong thing? Should I have said nothing and just changed the subject right off the bat? Or am I overthinking this entirely?I didn't say anything to the parents because I literally just met them and I didn't feel comfortable approaching them like that. I thought maybe the child just liked to talk to people she meets, so I might not even be the first one she's told.Any opinions would be appreciated. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/351sOyK

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