Wednesday, 4 September 2019

Am I doing this wrong?


I have a 2.5 year old boy. He is a very clever, active child. Very compassionate to other kids i.e. he gets very concerned and sometimes starts crying too if he sees another child upset. He also became a big brother 2 months ago.Anyway, I was having a video chat with my mother today during which my boy was a bit grumpy as he had just been woken up by his sibling. He was messing around with us while i was paying attention to my mother and what she was saying. He then looked at me and hit my face with his hand. In response, i picked him up and sat him at the other end of the couch said that he hurt mummy and that we can cuddle after he says sorry. He took a while whingeing and "fake crying", looking upset before he said "sorry hurt mummy" and we had a cuddle and that was that.Now, my mother said that it's a very bad trait that he hits. I wouldn't call it a "trait" at all as it only happens once in a blue moon. Our approach has been to remove him from the situation if it happens and not smile or play until he apologises, while also explaining why we're not happy ("it's not nice to hit. It hurts. No playing until you say sorry" that sort of thing). He usually has a think about it, apologises eventually, we have a cuddle and carry on as normal.My mum said I should put him in a corner for punishment. According to her I am too quick to forgive and I'm forcing an apology. To her it is a sign of bad personality traits forming. To me it's just a toddler feeling frustrated and trying to get my attention. Like i said it happens once a month maybe which i don't think is very often and i don't think he's ever hit anither child.So, internet strangers. Is my approach enough? Is this normal toddler behaviour or should i be worried? How do you deal with such situations? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2PUBhk6

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