Friday, 19 April 2019

Being a parent is not for me.


I thought things would get better. For awhile they were. My son was sleeping through the night, at least 11 hours, he was quiet for the most part and played through the day with no problem. Then we hit almost 8 months and all hell started breaking loose.Since around 7 months his bottom teeth have been coming in and if course with that seems to be some on the sides of his mouth too. He has just been in constant discomfort and fussing and gnawing on everything in sight. I've been giving him these teething tablets that are all natural that seem to help a bit because I don't wanna load him up on Tylenol or Motrin all the time. Then 7.5 months happened and his next "leap" according to my "Wonder Weeks" app started.This is where its like going back to a newborn phase. He cries almost all day. (I'm a stay at home mom). Nothing but standing and holding him really fully comforts him. He's a big boy (almost 30 lbs) I can't always hold him. I try sitting and playing but then all he wants to do is climb. I try walkers and walking that'll satisfy him for minutes until he's crying again. Fed, changed, etc. It.just.doesnt.stop.It's been a long ass 8 months of this and I just really get it. I hate being a parent. I hate it so very very much. I feel like I'm not good at it. I feel like it's completely tearing my marriage apart because I'm always sad and angry. Some days it's a barrel of sunshine but 6 out of 7 days a week I feel empty inside. By the time my husband comes home from work (5:30-6) it's about 1-ish hours till bedtime because at that point my son is hysterical because he refuses to nap past a certain time every day.He goes down without a problem and then my husband and I go either on our phones or right to bed. For some reason there's just nothing to talk about anymore. (But that's another issue).Then comes the night time. It's hit or miss. Sometimes he won't wake until the morning and sometimes we're up every few hours to soothe him. It's usually just because he rolls over in his sleep and starts screaming so we just flip him and he's done. Lately, it's been waking up 2 HOURS earlier that he ever has. So now instead of sleeping 11-12 hrs. He sleeps between 9-10. So that's an extra 2 ish hours a day of screaming and crying.I finally hit my breaking point today. I don't want to do this anymore. I don't wanna listen to crying or screaming or fixing everything all the time. I don't want to be woken up every hour or 2 hours earlier than normal. I want to go back to work and get a break and not take care of him 24 hours a day. And I hate myself for saying all of this. I'm a mom and I chose this life. My son didn't do anything wrong to deserve me feeling like this. I feel like a horrible horrible human and probably the worst mother on the planet. I love him so much but I just hate being a parent.TLDR- I suck and I shouldn't be a parent. via /r/Parenting http://bit.ly/2ICWppE

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