May wife refuses to delegate, gets no sleep, life sucks.

We have two young kids, and this is testing our marriage like no other (3 years and 3 months). The problem is, I have a high powered job (wont get into specifics), but I make a good living and can afford to hire someone to OCCASIONALLY take relieve away from my wife and I. I'm not talking about a live in nanny, but maybe a babysitter who can come in and watch the kids so my wife can rest during the day while I'm at work. She works, but is currently on maternatiy leave.I try to be a good father, and husband...but we have an agreement that I don't do night feedings or any night duties, as being fresh and alert is a requirement for my job (I can't go into specifics). My wife has been more than fine with this, but between the nightmares and bottle feedings, lately she gets no sleep...she's miserable, we're all miserable.She doesn't complain a lot, and constantly says "I don't want someone else taking care of my kids!" Her parents live far away, and are great but can't come that often. My parents are helpful...but not really. So I find myself in a position going from work, to tantrums and diapers, to work...there is no relief!I'm just hoping this horrible time will pass. There are good moments in there, but it is generally extremely stressful. We get a babysitter once a month, and the last time all my wife did was look at the baby monitor and stress! What is the point of working so hard, and making a good living...if we can't OCCASIONALLY get a little relief from the stresses of parenting? My wife will no entertain this idea.Is there any solution? via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2pRDBYb