"Lydia" is my daughter's 14 year old friend. She grew up in a household with a single mom who went through a few terrible and abusive boyfriends before finding someone she fell in love with. This guy didn't get along with Lydia so long story short, they sent her away to live with her grandparents. She's been there for a few years now. Recently they told her she was going to be able to come back this year and she was there for two weeks before getting into a fight with "Dick" (the stepfather, who is an instigator, and acts far more immature than his age from what I've witnessed). So he drove her back to her grandma's house in the middle of the night and now she's permanently back here (in our town). One time we picked her up after spending a week at her mom's house and she begged her mom to let her stay, crying her eyes out. The mom's response? "You know you don't get along with Dick. You guys butt heads, it wouldn't work". She is certainly a troubled girl but she doesn't smoke, drink, or do any drugs, nor is she sexually active. She's generally a good kid, but this is warping her in a very bad way from the conversations I've had with her. She has severe abandonment issues and even more severe self esteem issues.This girl is definitely psychologically scarred from this. She reads posts on Facebook about her family going places (amusement parks, out to dinner), has to see pictures of everyone else having a good time while she's the odd child out. It's sad.I'm not sure why I'm posting here about this. I don't think there is anything I can do about it. I can just see this girl going down a dark path because of the way she's been treated by her mother and it's bothering me.Does anyone have any advice? via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2avWecJ
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