Tuesday, 3 March 2020

We lost our daughter and are now raising our granddaughter.


Our daughter and son in law died in a car accident last year. Our ten-year-old granddaughter, S, came to live with us. She was obviously heartbroken over losing her parents so young; we were heartbroken over losing our daughter and son-in-law, too. But we love S with all our heart, and we are so happy for her to be with us. But being a grandparent and being a parent are very different, and the dynamic has certainly changed between us and S. We’re all in therapy and working through our emotions. We’ve also signed S up for a couple of extracurricular activities. We’ve allowed her to get away with a lot, as it’s been a tough transition, but we can’t do that forever. I don’t like disciplining her, and she doesn’t like it either. There has been yelling and rudeness, and I can’t keep ignoring it. But this is new territory. S’s parents used to be in charge of discipline while we got to be the doting grandparents. This new territory is difficult. I’m not sure if I’m even looking for advice or if anyone can provide any; I certainly hope there are not a lot of people in this situation. I just wanted to get this off my chest. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/32SglNd

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