Tween son doesn't feel "masculine" or "manly" enough and I don't know how to handle these insecurities.

I have 5 kids and 2 of them are boys. The older one was always described as being "all boy." We never used that term but other people did. He was super active (hello ADHD-hyperactivity) and into sports, guns, cars, etc. It was never something we pushed on him. It was just how he is. He'll be 13 next month and is still that way. He plays multiple sports and is very good at them. He enjoys paintballing and shooting as hobbies. He likes working with his hands and has a "girlfriend." Pretty much the typical 7th grade boy.My 11 year old has never been that way and it's totally fine with us. He played sports when he was younger and still does martial arts but that's far from his focus. He discovered theater last year and decided to try out for a role this year. He got the role he auditioned for and is absolutely loving it but he opened up to me recently about feeling like he isn't able to relate to the other boys in his grade. Theater is overwhelming dominated by girls in his school and a lot of the boys unfortunately make jokes it. He's into reading and planning and more recently styling his hair.I think part of it is that his brother and him are so close in age (13 months apart) so he can see how different they are becoming. They always had the same friends but now have very different friend groups. Neighborhood friends are still the same but the 12 year old's school friends are mostly male athletes and the 11 year old's school friends are mostly theater girls. Again, we never used the word "manly" to describe people but my son said he feels like he isn't "manly" enough and thinks it is making it harder for him in school. I asked what he meant by manly and he described his brother. I am not really sure how to handle these insecurities. Any advice? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/39kcnPX