Daycare Woes

My son (3yo, 2 at the time it began) had a hard time adjusting to daycare (understandable). My husband and I are full time students, after about a month of EXTREMELY combative behavior, we had a meeting with his teacher and staff. Their recommendation was to bring him at 9AM, get speech therapy (which turns out he didn’t need), and well, be consistent with drop off. Makes sense.Prior to this we were dropping him off and leaving immediately, which lead to kicking, screaming, punching and general non compliance that seemed to last all day. Once we started the teachers plan, I noticed that she was short handed, and slightly disabled (she is older and has hip problems). So, instead of leaving her with a very indignant toddler, I asked if she wanted me to help him get settled in until it wasn’t so chaotic. She said yes. It worked out 10xs better. He was whiny, but not trying to escape, punch, kick, scream, and in a noticeably better mood everyday.Because of this, I’ve had to drop a class, school is an hour and a half away for me. No big deal, but my school wants documentation of these issues before granting me the withdrawal. I asked the staff (not the teacher, but the people who are in charge of the front desk and administrative tasks, who are all aware of this issue) for documentation. One, who sat in on the meeting with the teacher, informed me that she could not provide the letter, because the daycare does not condone my lingering during drop off. Stating, “if you stay longer than 10-15 minutes, you need a background check.” I felt like I did something wrong, but when I looked into the policy of the franchise and state about this supposed rule, and it turns out that both require/allow “open door” policies, completely unannounced visitation by parents of enrolled students at any time. Now, I was just looking for a letter to substantiate that my son was having a hard time adjusting, and together, we agreed upon a time of drop off and that I have had to stay to calm him down. Very simple.I’m a little concerned that someone would make something up about background checks and visitation policy that goes against state law. When my husband asked about the policy she said they have to be accompanied visits by front desk staff through the glass door in front of the class (there no policy that I can find that states this, and seems to go against the states parent visitation policy).Long story short, I feel like I am going crazy. I understand why they don’t want me to be in his class for 15-20 min, but they also never made a sincere effort to calm my child down in the morning, the teacher CLEARLY needs help beyond the girls who serve breakfast and bark orders. Also, it just didn’t seem like a valid reason to me. I don’t even care about my own issues with my college, but it seems so bizarre that they would make up random rules.Anyway am I crazy? I feel a little lost about this via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/33QZWIx