Uncomfortable conversations with other parents

Hi everyone!Since having children, I have made a few close friends with other moms through weekly mom groups. But now that my daughter has entered school and extracurricular activities, I'm having trouble expanding my social circle. I think there are two situations in which I may be alienating other parents, but I'm not sure how to handle them.First situation is that I truly don't know how to respond when people are complaining about their children/spouse. Marriage and parenthood are hard!! But when people call their children or spouse assholes/extremely difficult I don't know what to say! Agreeing with them seems inappropriate, but disagreeing with them seems to alienate people. What am I supposed to say in this situation??Second is when their children are misbehaving/acting rambunctious/too silly. With family, my normal reaction is to correct my children, but then joke with my husband when my kids aren't looking (I guess to deescalate situations). With a lot of parents, I feel like this is off-putting. But I feel uncomfortable acknowledging the behavior, because (I guess) I'm afraid to criticize another person's kid.I guess I know that I'm denying their experiences? But at the same time, I'm uncomfortable possibly criticizing their family (especially because I barely know them). How do you guys handle situations like this? I'm sorry if this is common sense... I can be super dense when it comes to social encounters. Thanks for the help!!! via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2sdXpdz