Being Godmother Is Grating

I realize it was an “honor” to be chosen as my friends sons godmother. However. This friend is extremely high maintenance, and she likes “extra special attention” placed on her children. I’m not very religious, and she knows this. She does things that irritate me and I find myself irritated by what I feel to be an outdated tradition and her pushiness to have me go above and beyond in this duty. She will say things like “he hardly knows you because you never see him”. Last week she tried to trick me by saying I was another one of her children’s godmother. “No, he’s not your godson, “Timmy’ is.” (She has four kids.) I looked at her for a moment and was like what? Obviously I know which child is my godson so I told her so. I was really irritated by her effort to trick me, and she seemed amused by it. This week also, she texted me to tell me I missed his birthday. He’d had no party. For some reason I hadn’t had the date on repeat on my phone calendar and I missed it. I felt bad about missing it, and I bought him gifts to make up for it. I asked when I could bring these gifts by and she said 8 am. She’s a stay at home mom and I work. So I told her that wouldn’t work, it would need to be later. Her response was “I have a schedule to keep”. Well lady, I do too. She then suggested I come over the next day after school and I replied ok. She then tells me sorry that won’t work she made plans to go somewhere. So she said next week. At 8. Once again I said I couldn’t. That I could do later in the afternoon and that’s it. She did not reply. And anyway the kids having a party in September even though his birthday is in August (because everyone is out of town in August) 🙄. I’m irritated that she thinks her time is more important than mine, I’m irritated that she thinks the world revolves around her and her kids, and quite frankly with 12 nieces and nephews to remember and two kids of my own, I really cannot afford to be the type of godmother she wants. She expects people to spend money and time on her kids but does not reciprocate. In the 6 years I’ve known her I’ve always gotten her something for her birthday, but the gesture has never been reciprocated. She expects me to get my godson a gift on every religious holiday including his birthday, and I am spread thin with all of my nieces and nephews and my kids school friends and her three other kids. I feel like I’m being used and sort of disrespected. I’m already strapped with Christmas, Easter, his birthday, I mean when is enough enough? Does this go on forever? I wish I could have declined the godmother role but I didn’t want to offend her. I simply am not religious enough to take this role that seriously. And I’m trying in earnest, but her entitled behavior makes it difficult. This is mostly a rant, thanks for listening. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2UA7ADm