Name's affect a child's life

I am curious what people think and why they name they children as they do.Please remember that your child LIVES with it. It is often difficult to change your name cause you feel you have grown and its part of who you are. Even if your parent's were thick as fuck.I've lived in Australia my whole life. I am a 23 year old young man and my name is Tara.My Parents are Scottish and German. My dad had never heard the name before and in Scotland is a unisex name so my mother thought it was normal and a 'beautiful name'. To be named after the hill of Tara. https://ift.tt/2KXjF3v as long as I can remember from being a young child to now every time I meet someone they ask me twice or three times "sorry? Tara? Whats the meaning behind that? Isnt that normally a girls name".I grew up in kindergarden, primary, high school every day "You've got a girls name" so immediately from Day 1 I seemed to become bully's targets. Even now at work, work can be especially uncomfortable.I grew up hating introducing myself, school assemblies and public speaking I always thought "please dont call my name" cause all the kids would snicker.Once or twice it wouldn't be so bad. But even now its almost everyday, consistently for FUCKING YEARS. A small thing over time can be so mentally draining.Girls while I was growing up would also tease me "Tara the girl!" and all that kinda shit.I've never gotten over that. I know I shouldn't feel like this but I am really struggling how to approach women especially because whenever I do its all I think about.I don't want to change it. Someone's I do. But I also feel its part of who I am. I have no idea how you even choose on identifying yourself with a different name.Perhaps I shouldn't but because I grew up thinking I needed to detach, isolate myself from others I've grown up to be so introverted and scared of how others perceive me because of my name I've become quite lonely. I know I shouldn't blame that only on my name but sometimes you are your life's experiences right?And people still say that's a girls name. So its not in my head.My friends tell me I should go to therapy to try and conquer my feelings. But how do you overcome something as attached to you as your name. Whatever I do it's still going to follow me around. If I do change my name I'm still going to be the same person with the same experiences.​Just please. Your child is the one that lives with it.I just wanted to tell someone.I am really interested as what people think. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2NG0yNs