Question for students with special needs & IEPs in public schools

Quick question for my fellow parents of kiddos with IEPs. How forthcoming is your school / district / IEP team about what is available in your district (in terms of placement and services, specific programs, etc)?EDIT: OK, not so quick after I typed it all out.I understand that needs drive goals, goals drive services, and services drive placement. I understand that courts have ruled that parents cannot dictate, for example, a specific reading curriculum be used with a special ed student. I'm not looking to dictate things like that.However, I'm finding it's like pulling teeth trying to find out general information about what's available. Some example questions would be:"Does the district have a self-contained classroom for children K-3 with learning disabilities and ADHD? Is that available?""Are there any 2nd grade classrooms in the district that are co-taught w/ both a gen ed teacher and a special ed teacher?""Do any Resource Rooms in the district use (or have teachers who are trained & qualified to use) Wilson Reading or Lindamood Bell?" So, as a result of not being able to get info on what's available, here's how the IEP meetings go. I go to the IEP meetings with my data from the previous school year about what worked & what didn't - additional needs that have become apparent, etc. I collaborate with the IEP team to get present levels / needs / goals re-written to reflect current needs & what worked & didn't in the past.THEN we get to the Services & Placement part of the discussion - meaning 'in what setting can these needs best be met'? And this is where I get into trouble, because I get a lot of "that's not available in this district" or "we don't have that" (which I understand they should not be doing because these decisions are supposed to be made based on what the student needs, not what the district already has available). "Well, what DO you have?" - and they shut down.In advance of an IEP meeting that I plan to schedule (to revisit present levels and address some needs that became apparent by the end of last school year), I contacted the Sp Ed Coordinator for the district (who attends our meetings because the Principal doesn't have the level of knowledge required to answer our questions). I asked about which specific reading programs were available in the resource rooms at which schools. And, I'm getting so much resistance in getting that information. It's like it's some kind of secret knowledge or something. They have a very "we need to stick to Least Restrictive Environment, here's whats available at her home school - take it or leave it" attitude. Is it generally this hard to get info on programs, services, and settings that the district has available? Am I doing something wrong here? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2OgurUT