WTF did I just pay for?

I'm a SAHM, but I had a babysitter this morning for my 2 year old because I'm recovering from a surgery. So I planned on being home, sitting around, getting a well-deserved break. But my 2 year old is going through Something Big recently. Just in the past few days she's had two epic meltdowns. Screaming inconsolably, thrashing and trying to bash her head on the floor, seemingly for no reason at all, lasting up to ten minutes. These have seemed like "red flag" tantrums, so I'm keeping an eye out, but it's only happened twice so far, so I'm hoping it's just an extreme reaction to my having been out a lot in the past week (surgery related), and having her routine thrown, and maybe also a perfect storm of emotions, teething, potty training, who knows what else.Anyway, point being, my usually lovely and extremely well-adapted child was going to be difficult today. But she's two. I still expected the babysitter to stand up for the challenge and be creative with me. I knew I wasn't going to get my relaxed couch surfing time, but at the very least I would have loved another adult on the scene. The babysitter is 18, so she officially qualifies as an adult, right? But she barely put any effort in towards helping me out.I got zero break and had to do all the work. Babysitter even came outside at one point, after it took me 20 minutes to coax my daughter to do something other than cling to my legs, and I thought she was going to step up, but instead she asked for the WiFi password. I'm not a confrontational person, so all I could do was keep asking her to try to play with my toddler to see if she would warm up to her. Babysitter would make an effort for like thirty seconds, and then when my daughter would inevitably come running back to me, the babysitter would give up.So I mean, I didn't want to just leave the house and let her cry it out, because again, her tantrum this morning was somewhat disturbing and utterly out of character. But should I have expected more of the babysitter? She just sat with her computer most of the time, and even bragged when I finally paid her to leave after two hours (she was supposed to stay for three hours), that she had had time to finish her D&D character write-up. What? Why on earth would I care that I just paid you to goof off for two hours? I'm confused, but I've also never been in a babysitter's position, taking care of a very young toddler who is having a super hard day, while one parent is in the house. Is it unreasonable to expect that to go well?Would love to hear from any babysitters who've been in a similar situation, who maybe felt awkward but eventually figured out how to help and earn your pay? Even if it was just offering to do the dishes?? Or parents who had a shy babysitter, is it even worth hiring this kind of person or are they not cut out for the work? I get that the situation was awkward, but I also expect people to be willing to dive in and TRY. Thanks, and sorry for the novel!! via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2SLKrNA