My stepson is talking to older men online and my wife isn’t doing anything to help him

There was some sort of miscommunication with my past post, of me not giving enough information so I’ve decided to explain everything in depth.I married my wife back in April after we dated for 10 months and were engaged for 3. We met through mutual friends and spent most of our time out with friends or clubbing, and I didn’t even know she had kids until two months in. But she asked me if I was okay with kids, and me being 34 and inexperienced asked how old her kids were. She told me she had a 17 year old boy and a 5 year old girl. I met her daughter that night (her son was at his friends house).My stepdaughter is spoiled, but sweet nonetheless. My wife gets her everything she wants, and when she doesn’t get her way she accepts it politely. I would have expected her to be bratty, but she’s adjusted really nicely. She’s a sweet little 7 year old now and I love her like my own daughter.But my stepson is not as well off. My wife is very passive and allows her kids to do whatever, like I said, but she doesn’t like to tell her son what or whatnot to do. At first when I started living with my new family, he was out a lot at what we assumed was his friends house. But then we got a call from the hospital in the middle of one night from the hospital saying he had alcohol poisoning and needed to be checked out. On the drive back, his mother said nothing and he was on his phone. Apparently, he’d been going too parties instead of his friends house. My wife knows about this, but didn’t stop him from going. I’ve been telling her to keep a better guard on him but she’s been just telling me to let him have fun.After that incident I guess he wasn’t invited to as many parties because he stopped going and stayed at home in his room. He really didn’t leave his room until a week later when he decided to go back out. The first night I caught him, I sat him down and tried to give him advice on drinking, but he didn’t want to listen and yelled at me telling me I wasn’t his father. So he went, and my wife sent me an affectionate look.And from that point, he stopped coming home in the morning to get ready for school. He just stopped by during lunch hour and picked up some clothes. I only know this from when I was sick for a day and caught him in the kitchen. I know now that he was living with his at the time girlfriend, but after their breakup he came back home.He came back again and I sat him down the first night he came back. He was at the door with his clothes in a black garbage bag and only one shoe, and looking back on it now was most likely intoxicated. I told him what I did around his age to try to relate to him. He brushed it off and went to his room.And he’s been in his room for a while. I’ve dragged him out a couple times to make him go to school but he’s always left half day and come back here. Now that’s summers here, I don’t have an excuse to get him out. He goes on his laptop for the whole day and blasts music to drown out any sound from his room. When he was taking a shower one day, my wife went to clean his room and when he came out he went ballistic and insisted she was the worst mother for touching his computer. So I was curious.And I know it seems like a terrible thing to invade someone’s privacy like that, but my gut was telling me it was something that had to be done. I work as a tech support for windows and one of my friends from work is especially skilled at getting into computers. My stepson was out with his biological father for the weekend and I took the opportunity to go through his computer.I found three Facebook accounts, linked to three Instagram accounts. Reddit accounts and a Four Chan account. I went through his messages on Facebook, all with men in their thirties and up. They’re extremely sexual.At least he isn’t damaging his body anymore with drugs and alcohol, but this could be far more dangerous.I don’t know what to do. I told my wife and she seemed shocked. She started crying and I don’t know what to do to help her. I need advice. Please, be civil. I want to do what I can to make him trust me. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/32Pnz4o